How to Make Friends in Midlife and Beyond: The Importance of Community and Sisterhood
Friendship is a fundamental part of life, yet many women in midlife and beyond find themselves feeling disconnected or longing for deeper connections. As careers shift, children grow up, and life circumstances change, social circles often shrink. If this sounds familiar, know that you are not alone. Studies show that nearly one in four adults over 50 feel socially isolated (National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, 2020). But the good news is that friendships—real, meaningful ones—can be cultivated at any stage of life.
Why Friendships Matter More Than Ever
Meaningful friendships contribute to longevity, mental health, and overall well-being. Research from Harvard’s 85-year-long Study of Adult Development found that close relationships, more than money or fame, keep people happy and healthy as they age. Strong friendships reduce stress, lower the risk of heart disease, and even improve cognitive function. For women in midlife, nurturing connections is not just a luxury—it’s a necessity for thriving.
A Canadian study published in Psychosomatic Medicine found that individuals with strong social networks had lower inflammation levels, reduced stress hormone responses, and better cardiovascular health. The study highlighted that loneliness is as harmful as smoking (Holt-Lunstad et al., 2010). Meanwhile, research by Statistics Canada shows that social participation significantly improves both mental and physical health, reinforcing the importance of friendships in midlife and beyond.
The Health Benefits of Meaningful Connections
- Improved Mental Health
Friendships provide emotional support, reducing the risk of depression and anxiety. Engaging in meaningful conversations with friends can enhance self-esteem and foster a sense of belonging, which is crucial in midlife.
- Cognitive Health and Reduced Dementia Risk
Studies show that staying socially engaged helps keep the brain sharp. A 2017 study published in The Lancet found that social interaction is a key protective factor against cognitive decline and dementia.
- Lower Risk of Chronic Diseases
Socially connected individuals have lower risks of high blood pressure, heart disease, and obesity. A University of Toronto study found that individuals who regularly engage in social activities tend to have lower levels of inflammation, which is linked to numerous chronic illnesses.
- Longer Lifespan
A well-connected social life is strongly associated with longevity. A meta-analysis published in PLoS Medicine found that people with strong social relationships had a 50% increased chance of survival compared to those with weaker ties.
Tips for Making Friends in Midlife
- Start with Self-Compassion
If you feel lonely, avoid self-judgment. Life changes naturally impact friendships, and seeking new connections is a sign of growth, not failure. Give yourself permission to want—and pursue—friendship.
- Join a Community Aligned with Your Interests
Seek out groups that align with your passions. Whether it's a book club, hiking group, spiritual circle, or art class, shared activities foster organic connections. Online and in-person communities like the Fabulous at 50 FabSOUL Circle provide a supportive space for like-minded women to connect and grow together.
- Rekindle Old Friendships
Sometimes, meaningful connections are just a phone call away. Reach out to a friend you lost touch with—chances are, they’d love to reconnect.
- Be Open and Approachable
Friendships don’t happen overnight. Be open to small conversations, whether it’s chatting with someone at yoga or smiling at a neighbour. Every deep friendship starts with a simple hello.
- Say Yes More Often
If someone invites you to coffee, a networking event, or a gathering, say yes! Even if it feels out of your comfort zone, being open to experiences creates opportunities for connection.
- Create Your Own Gatherings
If you’re not finding the right space, create one! Host a dinner, start a walking group, or invite a few women for a coffee chat. Often, others are longing for connection just as much as you are.
The Power of Sisterhood
There’s something special about connecting with other women who understand the unique joys and challenges of midlife. Women thrive in circles of support, where stories are shared, wisdom is exchanged, and laughter is abundant. Sisterhood offers a sense of belonging, encouragement, and inspiration.
That’s exactly why Fabulous at 50 exists. Our FabSOUL Circle is designed to foster deep, meaningful friendships in a safe and supportive environment. Here, you’ll find women who uplift, inspire, and truly get you. Whether you're looking for engaging conversations, personal growth opportunities, or simply a place to belong, this is your invitation to join us.
Embrace the Possibilities
Making friends in midlife doesn’t have to be hard—it just requires a willingness to reach out and be open to connection. If you’ve been craving more meaningful friendships, now is the perfect time to take action. Join a group, attend an event, and most importantly, allow yourself the gift of companionship. Because life is far richer when shared.
Ready to find your circle? We invite you to explore the Fabulous at 50 Sisterhood and FabSOUL Circle to discover the friendships waiting for you.
What Does FabSOUL Mean?
Fab of course stands for Fabulous because that is what we believe each woman can create in their life.
SOUL - The meaning and core of our Circle.
S - Sisterhood, a bond that connects us all
O - Open-heartedness, a willingness to give and receive love
U - Uniqueness, celebrating each other's individuality
L - Laughter, finding joy in the moments we share together.